Sasha and I are getting closer to our goals of loving oneness in a polyamorous relation, family and community. Sash says behavioral psychologists call getting closer The Method of Successive Approximations. We’re narrowing the field of potential lovers, fine-tuning and zeroing in on “the ones”. I know we’ll get what we seek.
Sasha’s had lots of experience. His poly life actually stretches back in the 60s when he’d loved in groups after anti-war protests. I discovered polyamory in `66, when I was twelve. I resonated with The Harrad Experiment by Robert Rimmer and Stranger in a Strange Land” by Robert Heinlein. Rimmer and Heinlein gave me a container for thoughts that helped me to think bigger than conventional society. When Sasha and I joined, we had to create a form of polyamory that would delight and support us both. We wanted to live in harmony with a dozen adults who love each other equally.
That’s what we wanted. What I got was jealousy, pain, fear, insecurity, lack consciousness and limitation. So we backed off from that vision of polyamory. We started over, renegotiated our relation to a form that works well for both of us. So now, how do we do this with three or four? And what happened on the way to where we are now?
adult-advice, 2 juli 2009